I’ve heard so many speak of how happy they are to see 2016 move out and allow the New Year to bring better times. I can totally relate to that as 2016 brought its share of challenges for me and my family. I know that I want to leave 2016 with appreciation rather than anger or resentment, or a good riddance to you feeling. I needed to reflect on the struggles this year has presented to me and find the beauty of these struggles.
We create our own reality? Really?
I have had my fair share of wondering, “How could I have possibly created this?”
It is during these difficult times that I can struggle to believe we create our own reality and wonder why in the world would I create this?
This is especially hard when life is going just great and you are feeling good and then BAM you lose your job, or you get sick, or someone you love gets seriously sick, or someone has an accident, or worse - they die, or the love of your life leaves you for someone else, or some other traumatizing event happens throwing you off your hill of happiness. It happens in an instant. Fear engulfs us, shrouding any possible sliver of light to shine through. Our minds quickly begin to roll around the negative. We delve into these shadows bringing to mind every bad experience we have ever had or heard of.
Remembering those personal past experiences can be the worst ones for trapping us. You can feel the choking hold that fear has on you. You fear those bad times are coming back again. Days can go by with this fear gripping you. And you feel you will never get out of this hole. You can feel it in your body, lingering. Everyone feels it in their body in different ways. I feel it in my solar plexus like I’ve been kicked in the stomach. Sometimes it can be so bad that you may feel that you will never smile or laugh again. I won’t talk about it. I clam up and hold it close in my body, pulling in tightly.
You cannot create from this space and you do not want to stay here.
How do you pull yourself up when the conditions around you are giving you every reason to be in fear, anger or sadness?
Here is what I have learned.
When I am in this place of choking on the heaviness of fear, I can only be there for a short time and then I begin to feel the emotional exhaustion. I tend to think I need to fix the situation by some sort of action, or maybe I can control it in some way.
I feel myself moving from fear and victimization into anger. I suddenly get fed up and angry with the Universe for plunking me into this mess. How could I have created this? I will have my rant to the Universe either in my writing journals or often when I am driving down the highway, alone in my car. I will yell, complain and vent, hitting my steering wheel letting the Universe know that I AM FED UP! I AM DONE WITH THIS FEELING OF BEING SCARED ALL THE TIME! I DON’T WANT TO DO THIS ANYMORE! I DON’T DESERVE THIS! At this point I begin to defend my position. I HAVE WORKED HARD IN MY LIFE....blah, blah, blah.
And suddenly through this angry rant I begin to feel a bit of release happening because as I let my anger out I am releasing control and letting go. I can see a crack of light through my fear. I can feel my heart expand and my solar plexus release. I am reminded that I have been here many times in my life, and each time I rise to the top. I finally let go of trying to control the situation and instead move into the feelings I want to create in my life. My focus, clarity and intention swell up inside me and this brings a shift to the situation.
You see when we begin to really see our own power and connection to our Source Energy, there is no room for fear.
My rant quickly moves from one of anger and resentment to one of clear vision and gratitude and this is the key to unlocking the door to new opportunities, and miracles.
We feel our power again, which requires no controlling or force in the situation. When you feel that crack of light coming through this is the time to remind yourself that everything always does work out for you. This is temporary and you will get through it. There is so much help out there for you if you just open and allow it to flow. Open to the flow and allow the Universe to play this out. You are manifesting a beautiful, wonderful world for yourself. Every day you are a new person and past experiences no longer matter. Past experiences are who you were, not who you are now!
You will have allowed yourself to be open to miracles happening; maybe in the form of an inspired solution to your problem, or meeting the right person to help you move through your situation with grace and gratitude, and many times it may be that you get a new job that brings wonderful new opportunities, or a long needed rest for your health to recover with a renewed appreciation for life, or a financial windfall of some kind.
You see the Universe doesn’t want you to suffer and does not put you into situations to teach you a lesson. You create that yourself; the
Universe pulls you through with grace and love when you open to allow that into your life.
We are human and we vacillate between trusting and then wanting to control, or feeling victimized in this world. When terrible things are happening to you or around you, stay in your center of connection with your source and you will impact the situation in a positive way.
Standing in fear, anger, guilt or resentment keeps us blocked from the flow of miracles.
So look back at 2016 and make a list of all the good that came from the struggle. You are bigger and better, more expanded from those challenges. And when you feel the gratitude flow through you and a sense of pride for what you have come through, then you are ready to manifest your new year.
Welcome 2017 with a heart of joy and enthusiasm, leaving no room for fear at all!
Happy Creating! Cheers,